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Advice for getting through a divorce

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I’ve been divorced for four years and have a teenage son. I work free- lance, but my support is my alimony. My concern is, should I go back to work during this difficult teenage time or should I stay home and take advantage of my situation until I have no other choice financially? Returning to […]

Advice for getting through a divorce

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I’ve been divorced for four years and have a teenage son. I work freelance, but my support is my alimony. My concern is, should I go back to work during this difficult teenage time or should I stay home and take advantage of my situation until I have no other choice financially? Returning to the […]

Advice for getting through a divorce

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I am getting divorced. What do I need to do to make this transition as smooth as possible for my children and me? Create a support system for yourself. Have a great attorney, forensic accountant, estate attorney, financial planner, divorce life coach, therapist and good friends. I can’t stress enough how important it is to […]

Advice for getting through a divorce

Debbie Martinez

I am getting divorced. What do I need to do to make this transition as smooth as possible for my children and me? Create a support system for yourself. Have a great attorney, forensic accountant, estate attorney, financial planner, divorce life coach, therapist and good friends. I can’t stress enough how important it is to […]

Advice for getting through a divorce

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My ex-husband continues to make my life miserable. What I don’t understand is that he’s the one that had the affair. Why does he continue to act this way? Who knows and who cares? Are you going to spend your precious time and energy figuring out why? Instead, figure out how you are going to […]

Advice for getting through a divorce – My kids are taking advantage of the divorce by using the “I’ll go live with Dad” tactic

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My kids are taking advantage of the divorce by using the “I’ll go live with Dad” tactic to get what they want. How do I stop this? You cannot be held hostage by the fear of losing your kids to living at dad’s house nor can you give in to the feeling of guilt from […]

Advice for getting through a divorce

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I just got divorced and I’m a mess. Socially I’m out of touch and physically I’m not a happy camper. How am I at 50 going to be able to compete with 30 year olds? It’s not a competition; it’s about you being happy with you. Give yourself an honest once over. What do you […]

Advice for getting through a divorce – I just got divorced and I’m a mess. Socially I’m out of touch and physically I’m not a happy camper.

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I just got divorced and I’m a mess. Socially I’m out of touch and physically I’m not a happy camper. How am I at 50 going to be able to compete with 30 year olds? It’s not a competition; it’s about you being happy with you. Give yourself an honest once over. What do you […]

Advice for getting through a divorce

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I found out that my ex changed the address at the school to his address only. Now I don’t get the kids’ report cards and other notifications. Is there legal action I can take? Rule #1, avoid legal recourse if at all possible. So many times people run to their attorney to show their ex […]

Advice for getting through a divorce – What can I do to stop my ex-husband from telling lies about me to anyone who will listen?

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What can I do to stop my ex-husband from telling lies about me to anyone who will listen? I’m losing friends left and right. All I can say is that they weren’t really your friends. Those that know you will know to turn a deaf ear. Shakespeare was a wise man when he said, “The […]

Advice for getting through a divorce – What do I do with my wedding and family pictures now that I’m divorced with children?

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What do I do with my wedding and family pictures now that I’m divorced with children? If you have loose pictures hanging around that need to be put in albums, perhaps you can put them in a box until you are ready to go down memory lane and organize them. By that time, you will […]

Advice for getting through a divorce – According to our agreement, my ex is required to notify me of school activities, etc., but she never does.

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According to our agreement, my ex is required to notify me of school activities, etc., but she never does. I always miss things and I keep asking, but she ignores me. Simple, my friend, be proactive. Call the school, email teachers, coaches, etc. and ask them to please include you when sending out papers or […]

Advice for getting through a divorce – My ex and I have different parenting styles. I don’t like that my kids have conflicting rules and expectations.

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My ex and I have different parenting styles. I don’t like that my kids have conflicting rules and expectations. This is a tough one and all I can say is acceptance and consistency. It’s a big pill to swallow (one of many) that you don’t have control of what goes on at your ex’s house, […]

Advice for getting through a divorce – I’m moving out. Is it best to get a place close to the kids and my ex?

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I’m moving out. Is it best to get a place close to the kids and my ex? Close proximity is always best for convenience sake. If the kids forget something at one of the houses (and they will) and for pick ups and drop offs. How close is up to you. Factors to take into […]